The Roles We Play

I have recently been cast in a summer theater production of Ghosts by Henrik Ibsen. The performance is a part of Obvious Dad’s second season (find out more about it here). The thought and preparation for the role is energizing for me, and I am grateful to be cast in this play. While I am sure the play will be challenging for many who come to see it, I hope it will provide opportunities to have good conversations and explore ideas. Perhaps I will see you there.

While beginning the work of preparing, I have been reflecting on the roles I have played in the past. I am not simply referring to dramatic productions here, but the roles in which I have been cast in life. Some have cast me in the role of “Hero” or “Mentor”. To others, I am “Villain” or “Adversary”. In many lives, I have played only an ensemble role. For several, I am one of the principal characters.

In truth, I do not always enjoy the role in which I am cast by another. There are times when I have not deserved the title they have given me. At times, the part they ask me to play goes against my view of myself. However, if I am to be honest, I must admit that I have sometimes brought the roles on myself. There are those who hate me and those who love me, and I have (consciously or not) given them cause to feel as they do.

Ultimately, I have little control over the roles I am assigned in others’ lives. Therefore, I shall choose to waste little energy fretting about it. Instead, I will focus on being my most authentic self with everyone I meet. As Jung said, “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you really are.” That is a part I believe I can wholly embrace.